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With the help of my coach, I learned the skill of managing my thoughts about my own mother’s circumstance, and it changed everything for me. I love helping women change the way they experience the time they have left with their parent. You live in fear of what the future will be like as you watch your parent decline. You worry that you’re not doing enough to make them happy in their final years. You’re overwhelmed with the complexity of your parents situation. During our weekly 1-on-1 coaching calls, I’ll teach you how to allow emotions instead of resisting them. Your fear will turn to acceptance of anything the future holds. You’ll see how you’re not responsible for other people’s feelings. You’ll learn how to be confident in your ability to make the best decisions. The time is now to make your relationship with aging parents the best it’s ever been. https://www.maryremmes.com/improve-your-relationships daily 0.75 2020-10-08 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ecda327c5773c2dcbc54858/1598651997350-5PDTTSQHR33AMW0S7CHF/iStock-810532638.jpg Improve your relationships - Improve your relationship with your aging parent. You had a vision of what your life would look like at this age, but it didn't include the role of caregiver to an aging parent. No one thinks about what their final years will be like. You spend a lot of time worrying about their health. You have no idea how to manage their increasing needs for help. They won't admit they need help so you continue to prop them up so they can remain "independent". Some days there's resentment. You're missing out on all you've worked for because you're consumed with caring for parents. And then the guilt sets in. It's an emotional roller coaster, and you're not sure the safety buckle works. The relationship you have with your aging parent is yours to create. Nothing about the circumstance has to change for you to experience their final years with peace and joy in your heart. Coaching shows you how to love people exactly as they are.. You'll have unconditional love for your parents and your siblings, even when you disagree with their choices. Your mind and the way you choose to think about things is your superpower in how you experience life. I'll show you the power of awareness and how to use it to manage your thoughts. Working with me as your life coach will empower you. You'll be able to stand at your parents gravesite knowing that it wasn't easy, but you showed up exactly how you chose to at every turn. You will have peace in your heart that comes from knowing that you loved them well. https://www.maryremmes.com/new-home daily 1.0 2021-11-18 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ecda327c5773c2dcbc54858/1624633608348-K07Q6F2GSU84R3IXC1WD/iStock-1145005989.jpg Home - There’s no manual on how to make Mom happy when you’re tasked with her care needs and trying to live your own life. You’ve got a lot on your plate already. And now that Mom needs help with her life, you’re starting to freak out about yours. But there is one thing I know for certain -- You want to know that you’re doing the right thing for her. But how do you know? Have you ever fantasized about having someone call you and say, “You’re making EXCELLENT decisions. Now do this next.” Then you get a list of instructions on how to best manage your Mom’s care for her remaining years? The call isn’t coming. But you don’t need it to. No amount of resentment will: Get your siblings to work together to get Mom taken care of. Help Mom realize what you’re sacrificing to make sure she’s safe. Prepare you for her eventual death. That’s where I come in. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ecda327c5773c2dcbc54858/1593716600203-UICB6PS1X19Z2I8V85YO/2020_05_15_Mary%252BRemmes_52.jpg Home - I’m Mary Remmes and I help women caring for their elderly parents find relief from the pressure of needing to do enough and do it right. I help adult daughters, just like you, figure out how to care for their Mom’s in a way that honors them, all while enjoying this phase of your own life with grandkids, traveling and living your own life. With 10+ years in nursing home administration and certification from The Life Coach School, I have taught so many women experiencing caring for their Mom’s to heal shame, guilt and become more mindful during one of the most intense relationships in their lives. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ecda327c5773c2dcbc54858/1598651997350-5PDTTSQHR33AMW0S7CHF/iStock-810532638.jpg Home - I want you to know that I’ve been through this too. When my mom was diagnosed with dementia and began to decline, I felt like I should know exactly what to do because I’d built a career in long term care administration. And still I was unprepared for the range of feelings I felt about my mom on a weekly basis. My relationship with my mom wasn’t close. I felt guilty for not going back to see her more often and frustration on the occasions when I did because we didn’t agree on so many things. I loved her and yet it was so hard to be around her. I thought that we had more time to work on our relationship. But we didn’t. Getting coached was the only thing that healed my relationship with her. Even though she had passed away I could still change my relationship with her. I learned that every relationship we have is based on our thoughts about the person. I became very deliberate in the way I thought about her each day and began to shift my feelings away from guilt and resentment to acceptance and love for the exact mother that she was to me. We’re not going to pretend there is a right way to do this. Each adult daughter relationship is different and I’m here with you every step of the way. 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Your life will not be taken over by the desire of your Mom to remain “independent” (which REALLY means you’re doing everything for her) You don’t have to resent her when she thinks you’re not doing it right. You can enjoy midlife and the freedom that comes with it while your Mom is still alive. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ecda327c5773c2dcbc54858/1593716600203-UICB6PS1X19Z2I8V85YO/2020_05_15_Mary%252BRemmes_52.jpg Caregiver Coaching Experience - I’ve got your back. I promise that you will learn what’s possible for you before it’s too late. You won’t wait until your Mom has passed to relax and begin living your life again. The time we spend together will equip you with all that you need to know to wake up in the morning confident that you can handle anything that comes up. You’ll go to sleep at night secure in knowing that you’re doing enough for your Mom. I know what it’s like to wrestle with the feelings of obligation around elderly parent care. My career spanning 25 years in geriatric healthcare did not prepare me for the confusing emotions that caring for my Mom triggered. I wanted to help out and “do the right thing”, but how could I balance that with my own life? There were a lot of things I didn’t do well. I paid attention to what other families looked like. I used my Mom’s happiness as a barometer to see if I was doing it “right”. I learned so much on the family side that I didn’t get to experience in the healthcare role and it hurt. I created this program to help every adult daughter navigate their parent’s final years without sacrificing their own sanity. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ecda327c5773c2dcbc54858/1598632723688-P5V7MIYMX87FJLRPEWSX/iStock-1145256211.jpg Caregiver Coaching Experience - Here’s What Others Have Asked Before Working With Me… What if my relationship with my Mom is too far gone? I get this a lot, and I want to let you know that it just isn’t possible. Even if your parent has already passed, you can create the relationship you want. I know, I know… it sounds crazy to think that you can create a solid relationship based on your worth as a human! We’re taught so differently. But I’ll let you in on a little secret. The bulk of my own work on the relationship with my Mom was done months after she died. I’ll show you how relationships are created and best experienced even when you want to change everything about her. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5ecda327c5773c2dcbc54858/1593699946739-N2R3E3S6XTW2CYE8DYS1/iStock-1161412690.jpg Caregiver Coaching Experience - Your Mom will continue to age and it’s likely that her needs are only going to increase. Sure, you could continue letting Mom’s needs and wants consume your life until she’s gone so you can resume your own life, but that will most likely end up in resentment and guilt. Or you can wait for Mom’s attagirl, which let’s be honest, will probably never come and if it does, it will be a blip on your emotional radar... and then it’s right back into the weeds of daily caregiving. 12 hours is all it takes to create the relationship you want with your Mom. 12 weeks to learn the skills that will change every facet of your life. 3 months to clearly define who you are and learn to make confident decisions for your Mom’s care minus the guilt and drama while not making this your entire life. You can’t just keep putting off your life hoping things will get better. 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